Written by Anna Pociask
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Where was Adam when Eve was lured into the serpents enticing trap?
- Tending the animals?
- Oblivious at this point of no shame in the relationship that Eve would wander off and do the forbidden? (Genesis 2:25)
- Sleeping?
I really have no idea, but, when there are no other people to talk to what in the world could he have been doing? Or did it all happen so fast, Adam was at loss of what to do? It’s hard to fill in the gaps, but, you see that Eve was the main target first, and right when she ate, it was as if Adam was standing right there watching it all happen, but, just not sure what to do. ( I am not bashing Adam, btw) They were both equally at fault. They both were given a command on what not to do, and, when they decided to disobey God, they had to reap the consequences. And now our marriages are at stake everyday due to the sin that is in them.
I bring these questions up because I wonder how do marriages get where they are so separated from one another, both have no idea what the other is being lured into. Our marriage should be a safe place to share our struggles, not a place where our struggles our hidden from one another until it’s gotten so deep you no longer know that spouse anymore. Do not let your weaknesses become yours, let them be yours and your spouses. Fight together, not against one another. I am reminded of these lyrics from Casting Crowns, we are aware of our weaknesses, it just depends on how we handle them.
Be careful little eyes what you see
It’s the second glance that ties your hands as darkness pulls the strings
Be careful little feet where you go
For it’s the little feet behind you that are sure to follow
It’s a slow fade when you give yourself away
It’s a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day
It’s a slow fade, it’s a slow fade
Be careful little ears what you hear
When flattery leads to compromise, the end is always near
Be careful little lips what you say
For empty words and promises lead broken hearts astray
It’s a slow fade when you give yourself away
It’s a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day
The journey from your mind to your hands
Is shorter than you’re thinking
Be careful if you think you stand
You just might be sinking
It’s a slow fade when you give yourself away
It’s a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day
Daddies never crumble in a day
Families never crumble in a day
Oh be careful little eyes what you see
Oh be careful little eyes what you see
For the Father up above is looking down in love
Oh be careful little eyes what you see
I am not sure which words from this song really spoke to you, but when you sense a red flag, or are already way past the slow fade, do not let it defeat you and think there is no more hope. We are reminded time and time again of the goodness that comes through trials. I totally get that most marriages go through dry sprouts, whether it is from the time of life you are embracing (little kids, empty nest, can’t have kids, stressful job situations, can’t seem to connect with friends…) the list can go on, and it’s sad that our marriage is attacked first, and it makes sense why….the serpent has been after marriages since the beginning, and does not plan on stopping. satan does not like unity, he wants division and anything that God wants for His people.
Here is my main point from all of this:
- “Let no one deceive you with empty words” Eph. 5:6 Anything that is leading you to isolation and searching for something more than your spouse or God, turn around and run as fast as you can.
- “Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather EXPOSE THEM.” Eph 5:11 Children of God, if we do not confess our struggles/weaknesses/secrets to our spouse, eventually they will only separate us from one another that much more when it becomes too late. This is the person you vowed your life to, if you are afraid to share your struggles that control you, pray and ask God to give you the courage and for the Lord to prepare your spouses heart.
- “Wake up, O sleeper” Eph. 5:14 Wake up and realize that we as individuals struggle way more than announced to the world, and sadly to the one we love the most. Get in tune with your spouse before they are lured off into something else that is “pleasing to the eye” Gen. 3:6a
What step will you take today for your marriage?
xoxo
Anna Pociask, MA
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